What Your Funeral Says About You

The choice of funeral service can say a lot about the deceased person and what his or her family thinks of them.

While some people opt for traditional services that honor the life of the deceased, others choose unique and unconventional ways to commemorate their loved one’s life.

When your loved one dies, it can be tempting to want to hold an extravagant send-off, but you have to remember that some funerals are more appropriate than others depending on the personality of the deceased person and what kind of relationship he or she had with family members and close friends.

Your funeral says a lot about you.

1) Are you past your prime?

Baby boomers are increasingly worried about what will happen to their bodies when they die. Dying has never been more complicated, and planning ahead is increasingly important.

For example, do you want to be buried or cremated? What kind of funeral service would you like? Will you donate your body to science? Preplanning your funeral can help ensure that what you want actually happens.

Whether it’s a traditional burial or a green burial, it’s best to think about these things now instead of leaving someone else in charge of them later on.

Furthermore, speaking with family members and/or friends is one way to ensure that they will carry out your wishes and not someone else’s.

2) Did you stand up for what you believed in?

A funeral is a time for family and friends to grieve, celebrate and honor a life.

For some, it’s an opportunity to set an example of what we believed in and wanted to be remembered for.

We all want to live on after we die, and if you can’t live on through your children or grandchildren, then perhaps your values will. Keep these values at heart when deciding how you would like your funeral to proceed.

Have they changed over time? Do they align with those around you? What legacy do you want people to remember? Choose your final message wisely: Don’t wait until it’s too late.

3) Are you remembered by many?

Although we may not like to think about it, death is inevitable and it’s important that we set an example for others with how we want to be remembered.

Some people create a legacy based on what they achieve in life and leave behind tangible accomplishments that serve as a constant reminder of their existence; others inspire change in others with their words and deeds.

Regardless of how you do it, when you die, you’ll want your friends and family to remember your life fondly—so make sure your service (or lack thereof) reflects your personality.

If many people attend your funeral, you will be remembered by more people; therefore there will be more money given to charity in memory of you.

4) How well did you love your children?

Raising kids is difficult, expensive, tiring work. Anyone who’s ever had a child can tell you that their children are just as likely to drive them to drink as they are to bring them fulfillment and joy.

But all of it was worth it. That’s why parents do everything in their power to protect their children from harm while allowing them to discover themselves on their own terms—even when said harm comes from themselves or from other parents.

This includes helping grieving families deal with pain of losing a loved one after a long illness, providing comfort for bereaved siblings of older adults, and finding creative ways of preventing suicide among depressed teens.

When death does come, having left nothing but positive impressions on those they leave behind, some people get a second chance at life through organ donation or being frozen until medical technology allows them to be thawed back into full life again.